The Problem With Resolutions

The problem with New Year's Resolutions is everyone is all excited about them come January 1st and most people can't make it halfway through February without "failing" at their resolutions. Why do people keep doing this to themselves year after year? I give myself intentions or goals rather than resolutions and try to not have a certain end date.

An example is I rather not say I want to make more money and be debt free by the end of the year. I rather say I want to work hard at my job, aim to move up in my company, and book bigger photography jobs. My intention is to be the best businesswoman I can be, which in turn will bring in more money. By having my goal be centered around the positive, I won't be disappointed if I don't become debt free by the end of the year. I know I worked hard and greatly improved my business. Life happens. An unexpected expense could arise, someone could get sick, who knows? If by the end of the year you realize you don't have the amount of money you wished you had, you still can be able to look back and know you did everything you could and you worked hard.

Another big resolution is to lose weight. The money gyms make leading up to the new year is staggering from all the people saying "this is the year I will finally make it to the gym and go everyday and yada yada blah blah balh!!!". I've been that person. Did you know that low cost gyms psychologically manipulate members into not going to the gym? It makes sense to me. It's only $10! No biggie if I don't go.

How about instead of your resolution to lose weight, how about you make an intention to get active! Join a yoga or pilates class. Get running. Make a goal to cook at home more. Pick out yummy healthy recipes that appeal to you and learn how to cook them. Do it with your roommate, friends, family, neighbors, whoever!. Get excited about the food you eat. Get excited about being active. I have a very good friend who wakes up at 6am everyday and goes to yoga (she's lucky she lives across the street from the yoga studio). The yoga gives her clarity and sets the pace for her day. Watching her has made me and our mutual friends want to join the yoga studio too so we can all do it together.

The point is to keep your goals positive. Why would you want to do anything if it has an air of negativity floating around it? Staying positive will bring out the best results. 

More goals you could make:

  • Take a class to refine your craft, or just take a class because you're interested in learning something new.
  • Have a ladies/ boys night once a week. Having wine dates with my girls always make me happy.
  • If you're a woman, see if there is a Lady Project in your town. I met some many wonderful, inspiring women being in the PVD Lady Project. If there isn't one in your state, go ahead and start one!
  • Start a personal project. Something that brings just you joy.
  • Cut out the noise. Unfollow any accounts or blogs that isn't improving your life when you view them.
  • Allow yourself playtime. If that means Netflix breaks, snack breaks, or Buzzfeed breaks (or some combination of three), do it! Your brain needs time to recharge.
  • If you must do something every single day this year, print out Karen Kavett's Don't Break The Chain calendar. Feel good with every day you can cross off.

I want to be able to look back on the year and say that I had a great year and I did everything I could to make it as awesome as I could. It's ok that I didn't accomplish most of what I set out. I still can look back on how wonderful and crazy a year it was.