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Reconnecting With Friends Over DIABLO Red Blend Wine
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When you’re a person in your mid-30s it’s very easy to get caught up in the rat race. Things were easier in your early 20s and you didn’t have many responsibilities besides going to work and trying to not to date the wrong person. But now we have our careers, we have our families, we have our homes, and sometimes it’s hard to get together with new acquaintances or even your friends. The days seem to blend into one another and before you realize it months have passed and you haven’t seen even some of your closest friends. So, I made a point to invite a few friends over to my new apartment for a glass of wine and some treats. Here are a few tips on how to reconnect with those whom you’ve fallen out of touch.

1) Network within your existing network

Scroll down to the bottom of your text message thread and start texting people. My texts delete every 30 days so if yours don’t this may take a while so feel free to stop whenever you like. Scroll for a bit and look at the names that you see. Are there people there you want to reconnect with? This is actually a great tip for networking within your existing network. Work on those connections with the people already know. Maybe because we’re all super busy nowadays, they may have been wanting to reach out to you too but never felt like it was the right time, or they forgot to, or they were sitting there thinking “Oh it’s been months since I wanted to talk to so-and-so” and here you are, showing up in their texts. Take the time to reconnect with those whom you already know instead of trying to make brand new connections.

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2) Have a wine night!

Pick a random bunch of people and invite them over for a glass of wine or your preferred drink of choice. Tonight we are drinking this amazing new wine called DIABLO from Chile that is brand new to the Rhode Island market. I invited over my friends Olivia and Colleen (The Moms™) to drink this wine with me and catch up over a charcuterie board.

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My inner goth is a little obsessed with this branding. DIABLO was aged for 6 months, 6 weeks, and 6 days. I’m into it.

I really love red blends and DIABLO has become a quick favorite of mine.

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3) Go old school and send a card

Hopefully, you’re taking down your friends addresses. Everyone loves a nice card in the mail, so send your friend a quick little note saying you thinking of them. Every time I get a note in the mail I am surprised that someone took the time to write something nice to me and sent it my way. Go buy some stamps and some cute note cards and send quick little off now to a friend.

Reconnecting with friends doesn’t have to be a big grand gesture. We all have a ton of stuff going on so hopefully if they are a true friend they will understand that you got caught up in life and sometimes time escapes us. So, when it happens to you, take some time to reach out to friends and invite them over for a little treat.

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Tough Love Tuesday: Sometimes You Just Need A Break
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This week I am moving in with my boyfriend. Even though my move isn’t far, I am completely overwhelmed. I didn’t realize moving brain was a thing. I have so many things flying around my brain and I just can’t keep up. Add on top of that making sure all client work and responsibilities are still being handled. So today’s Tough Love Tuesday is a short one because I have packing to do! (send help)

Do one thing at a time

Attempting to do it all at once is never a good idea, let alone when a major life change is happening. Break down your day’s responsibilities and focus on your top three priorities. When you get them done you can look at other things on the top do list.

Don’t get hard on yourself

Some things will fall to the wayside and it’s ok. Don’t beat yourself up if you’re late on a deadline or your new home isn’t unpacked completely two weeks after you move in. You’re only human and you can only do so much.

Just say no

If a project is offered that you don’t have the bandwidth to do right now, just say no. I can understand when you work for yourself that turning down work can be hard but you won’t do a good job if you’re burdened by everything else in your life. And hey, they may be able to do the project when you’re available. Never hurts to ask.

Take a nap

Seriously, you deserve it.

What About Your Friends? // The Five People You Surround Yourself With
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I talk a lot about vibrations and frequencies. Your vibration is the energy that you are putting out in the world. Your frequency is the level at which you are operating. You may have heard that you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. I want you to think about those five people. Do they all lift you up? Motivate you? Challenge you to strive for more? Light you up when you see a text from them? Or do they drag you down? Depress you? Trigger you by the mere mention of their name? Hate to break it to you but if there are people in your inner circle that are dimming your light, they have to go. 

That could mean creating space away from them. If you are already on the path of doing your thing, people who aren’t along for the ride will naturally fall by the wayside. Maybe you need to confront them and say “Hey, all this negativity you bring to me isn’t cool.” It could be the wake-up call that they need because they’re blinded by their own insecurities that they project on everyone else. Or, you could do a friend breakup. I remember my first friend breakup in college. We went to high school together and hung out all the time when we first started college. She was a nice girl but when she got negative, it went deep. There was a problem everybody and everything. It was toxic being around her and I told her that I couldn’t have that in my life. 

To go back to frequencies, let’s use Jen Sincero’s example of a radio. You want to listen to hip-hop but you’re tuned into cat country. Instead of complaining that it’s not Drake while continuing to listen to dudes sing about their trucks, how about you turn the dial and tune and find the rap music you’re looking for. Some people in your life want desperately to be part of your group, but they’re just not on the same frequency as you and that is ok. Doesn’t make them a bad person at all. The vibration they’re putting out does not align with yours and you’re better suited saving that space for someone you can actually vibe with.

I've noticed that people are hesitant to remove people from their lives, no matter how toxic they may be. I want those people to ask themselves what they would say to a dear friend or family member in that same situation. Most likely they would tell them to cut that person out and never look back. My dream is for us all to value ourselves as much as we value those we care about. Sometimes people are in your life for a season and some for a lifetime, but they're all here to teach you a lesson. Spend this one life we have been gifted on the people who truly bring you joy.

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34 Things I've Learned Before I Turn 35
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This Sunday, April 15th, I am turning 35 years old. My friend asked me how I felt about it the other day. I’ve been saying I’m almost 35 instead of saying 34 for the past four months. I think I’ve been ready for it to end for a while now. Looking back on my birthday last year to now, I feel like I’ve both grown as a person and haven't changed much at all. Birthdays are everyone’s personal New Years Day. It’s our chance to reflect on the past year and see how far we’ve come, what we can adjust, and honor and celebrate what has happened. Here are 34 things I’ve learned in my 34 years.

  1. It's ok to not be where you thought you would be at this age.
  2. The fun is in the process of aiming to be your best self.
  3. Everything happens for a reason, even the really shitty stuff. It led you here.
  4. Worrying is wishing for what you don’t want to happen.
  5. Always stand up for what is right. ALWAYS.
  6. Use your phone for what it’s for and have actual conversations with people.
  7. You will always feel better after listing off what you’re grateful for first thing in the morning.
  8. Say no, and say it often.
  9. Say yes, and say it often.
  10. Learn what actions will propel your forward. That will help you with numbers 8 and 9.
  11. Surround yourself with amazing people and kick out the toxic folks.
  12. Multitasking is a sham.
  13. Read more, even if it’s another business book because you can’t be bothered to read fiction.
  14. But an afternoon spent reading poetry is good for your soul too.
  15. You’re happier when you have good food in the fridge.
  16. Holding hands is something that brings your joy. People should hold hands more often.
  17. Ask for help. You don’t have to do it all alone.
  18. It’s ok to change your mind, from the little things to the big things. Nothing is written in stone.
  19. Slow mornings in bed with your love is a fantastic way to start the day.
  20. Looking at your phone in bed first thing is a trash way to start the day.
  21. Have more plants and don’t be too hard on your self if you kill them.
  22. Have someone else do your taxes. Seriously.
  23. Smile more. Especially if it makes you feel a little weird.
  24. Laugh more. Even when you’re the one getting roasted.
  25. Vulnerability is the strongest position you will ever be in.
  26. Your ideas are valuable. Share them with the world.
  27. Nights out are fun but there is nothing better than cooking at home with your partner.
  28. Have the glass of wine at lunch. You deserve it.
  29. Your mindset is everything. Make sure it’s set on the right frequency.
  30. Explore your options. It’s ok to quit something if it isn’t working for you.
  31. When you’re overwhelmed just do what you can. That’s enough.
  32. Take more polaroids and if you see a Photo Booth, you get in it.
  33. It’s ok to not have a plan, even when it’s deciding to relaunch your blog an hour before you do it.
  34. Even when things are hard, you’re still fucking awesome.

Photo by Mike Marchetti

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