Tough Love Tuesday: Stop Telling Yourself "You'll Figure It Out"
We have to stop saying to ourselves that will figure it out. Especially, when we already know precisely what we need to do. How many times have you had a great idea for a business or a project, and it makes so much sense for you to do. This is the thing that you were put on this earth to create. Then you tell someone your idea, and then you say "Ok, I’m going to go figure it out some more." This needs to stop.
This is our ego's way of protecting us. When people think of the ego, they think of the thing that makes them feel super self-important or better than someone else. That is just part of its definition. The ego is also the part of our brain that tells us stories to us to protect us from being hurt or disappointed. There is actually a book called The Ego Is The Enemy by Ryan Holiday (I highly recommend reading it). It's that little voice in our head that is preventing us from taking the actions that we need to do to lead the life that we want.
About a month and a half ago, I was having a conversation with a friend, and she told me her brilliant business idea. I told her it was amazing and that she was born to do it. Right before she left, she said she was going to go home to think about it some more and to figure it out if it makes sense. I told her it already makes sense. Just because you told your parents or your friends and they didn’t completely understand it, doesn’t mean that it does not make sense. How many careers out there exist and we have no idea how any of it works. I still barely know what engineers do. I don’t know the ins and out of plumbing. The only people that need to understand what your business does is who is need to hire you. Literally no one else. So what needs to figure out?
By saying to yourself, "I need to figure it out" or "I need to make sure it makes sense" is a way of stalling. It’s a way of telling yourself that maybe you’re not good enough to make this a career. It’s your ego’s way of second-guessing yourself. We need to start trusting our intuition and ignoring our ego. The next time the ego begins telling you a story about you not being ready yet, kindly thank your ego for is concern, but you already got this. If you know in your heart that this is the goal you want to achieve, go headfirst towards it. Make a plan or hire a coach or take a class and get the education that you need. Make those steps that show your ego that this is the right thing for you to do. Once that part of you sees that you are taking those action steps to get even closer to your dreams, your mindset is going to shift and your ego is going to get on board. Every facet of you is living and breathing into the person that you’re meant to be.
I just got off of an astrology reading with Michael Lennox and let me tell you it was something. Patsy gave it to me as a birthday gift, and I’m so glad that she did because it reinforced everything that I’m doing for my future. He even said that even though I didn’t mention anything about questioning the path that I’m on, he sees that I’ve been building the steps to take my career in a direction that I knew was possible, and now I know that it’s totally achievable. It’s easy to be scared of failure, but it’s even scarier to be successful. People wonder if they get successful will they be able to keep it up. Or, if they actually earned it. I’m here to tell you that you deserve all the incredible things in your life. If you’re willing to put the work into your business and in your personal life, your mindset will shift. So many things that you doubted were capable will then be opened up to you because you put trust in yourself.