34 Things I've Learned Before I Turn 35


This Sunday, April 15th, I am turning 35 years old. My friend asked me how I felt about it the other day. I’ve been saying I’m almost 35 instead of saying 34 for the past four months. I think I’ve been ready for it to end for a while now. Looking back on my birthday last year to now, I feel like I’ve both grown as a person and haven't changed much at all. Birthdays are everyone’s personal New Years Day. It’s our chance to reflect on the past year and see how far we’ve come, what we can adjust, and honor and celebrate what has happened. Here are 34 things I’ve learned in my 34 years.

  1. It's ok to not be where you thought you would be at this age.

  2. The fun is in the process of aiming to be your best self.

  3. Everything happens for a reason, even the really shitty stuff. It led you here.

  4. Worrying is wishing for what you don’t want to happen.

  5. Always stand up for what is right. ALWAYS.

  6. Use your phone for what it’s for and have actual conversations with people.

  7. You will always feel better after listing off what you’re grateful for first thing in the morning.

  8. Say no, and say it often.

  9. Say yes, and say it often.

  10. Learn what actions will propel your forward. That will help you with numbers 8 and 9.

  11. Surround yourself with amazing people and kick out the toxic folks.

  12. Multitasking is a sham.

  13. Read more, even if it’s another business book because you can’t be bothered to read fiction.

  14. But an afternoon spent reading poetry is good for your soul too.

  15. You’re happier when you have good food in the fridge.

  16. Holding hands is something that brings your joy. People should hold hands more often.

  17. Ask for help. You don’t have to do it all alone.

  18. It’s ok to change your mind, from the little things to the big things. Nothing is written in stone.

  19. Slow mornings in bed with your love is a fantastic way to start the day.

  20. Looking at your phone in bed first thing is a trash way to start the day.

  21. Have more plants and don’t be too hard on your self if you kill them.

  22. Have someone else do your taxes. Seriously.

  23. Smile more. Especially if it makes you feel a little weird.

  24. Laugh more. Even when you’re the one getting roasted.

  25. Vulnerability is the strongest position you will ever be in.

  26. Your ideas are valuable. Share them with the world.

  27. Nights out are fun but there is nothing better than cooking at home with your partner.

  28. Have the glass of wine at lunch. You deserve it.

  29. Your mindset is everything. Make sure it’s set on the right frequency.

  30. Explore your options. It’s ok to quit something if it isn’t working for you.

  31. When you’re overwhelmed just do what you can. That’s enough.

  32. Take more polaroids and if you see a Photo Booth, you get in it.

  33. It’s ok to not have a plan, even when it’s deciding to relaunch your blog an hour before you do it.

  34. Even when things are hard, you’re still fucking awesome.

Photo by Mike Marchetti