Last week I shot my friend and model Maeve (Images NYC) in the East Village. I do love this neighborhood. Some of my favorite people live here so I'm sure that has something to do with it.
When people ask me about the people I shoot, specifically models, they usually ask if they have attitudes. Luckily I haven't had any divas but Maeve always stood out as being particularly nice. She's genuinely a sweet, caring person. She always has something kind to say. Maeve is joy to have in my life. Plus she will always go to Momofuku Noodle Bar with me so I'll keep her around.
The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows is a beautiful YouTube series of invented words by John Koenig. From the YouTube page:
"Each original definition aims to fill a hole in the language—to give a name to emotions we all might experience but don't yet have a word for. The author's mission is to capture the aches, demons, vibes, joys and urges that roam the wilderness of the psychological interior. Each sorrow is bagged, tagged and tranquilized, then released gently back into the subconscious."
Here is the introduction a few of my favorite videos from the series. Check out the rest on their channel.
I was having a conversation with a fellow photographer the other day and she said this to me: "Some people just don't want to be successful to themselves as much as they want to be successful to others." I agreed with her. I'm going to speak from a creative background but I'm sure this applies to many careers.
It's a tough life choice to decide you want to work in a creative field. The pay can be very inconsistent and most people in your life will not take your job seriously so of course you will want to appear as successful as possible to your peers, friends, and family. The problem with this though it can get negative really fast. Instead of motivating yourself to book bigger jobs or get 10 more weddings this year to better yourself and your business, it turns into watching what other people are doing or a big game of one-upmanship.
Social media is the prime location for showing off. It's the perfectly curated version of yourself that you present to the world. You see the new gear, the fun behind the scenes photos, the gorgeous all white apartment. You don't see the person going into the debt buying that gear, or the photoshoot was actually not paid, or the gorgeous apartment is actually your friend's. It seems like people need to show everyone else how great they're doing to be taken seriously.
It is easy to compare yourself to others. It happens to the best of us. The problem is that it starts to feel like you're playing a big game of catch up trying to appear as successful as those around you. You have to keep in mind that you don't know what is happening in other people's private lives. The overnight success story you see on social media really could have been years of struggle and hard work to get to where they are now. You can't assume someone is doing great just because they post awesome photos on social media. That is what they want you to see. You can't measure success from someone's Instagram posts.
Don't compare your beginning to someone else's middle or end.
So to go back to ""Some people just don't want to be successful to themselves as much as they want to be successful to others.", I think that people need to take a step back and remember that they need to work hard for themselves to better their own careers and lives. You have to do it for yourself because while you're too busy analysing what everyone else is doing, someone else is working their ass off to be the best at their craft and will leave you behind in the dust.
This is a pretty big subject that I will probably revisit in the future. Meanwhile, tell me how social media has affected you and your career. Do you catch yourself watching what other people are doing instead of focusing on your own career?
I don't have a closet in my bedroom in my apartment so I couldn't use the same ways of storing my shoes and accessories like I did at my last place. I had to get creative so here are two kind of strange but awesome tips for making your space not look so cluttered.
1 // Had a party and popped a lot of bottles? Instead of getting rid of them, recycle them a different way and use them as boot shapers! They keep my boots standing straight up unlike the actual boot shapers that were given to me a few years ago. Also they are a great conversation piece. Anytime someone knew visits, they definitely comment on the wine bottles.
2 // I own too many scarves, belts, and beanies and had no place to put them so I took two shopping bags that I liked and used them to hold all of my accessories. I used to hoard shopping bags from stores I liked so I may as well put them to use. Sad to say I recycled most of them before my move.
What are some organizational tips you have that may be a little strange but totally work for you?